29 June 2009

When Your Well Runs Dry.....

Dating is cool (sometimes), but some of you out there may be wondering what to do when there is a drought in your dating pool. I know it's been awhile since I've been out on a date, but I'm not worried. This is what I do in the meantime....and it may help you too:


You know this guy (or girl) very well. You all hang out from time to time, but there are no romantic sparks. This is just someone that's cool to hang around and you have a mutual understanding that "it's not like that." Simply....call up a platonic friend and hang!


This kills two birds with one stone. Not only are you occupying time that is spent thinking about not dating, you can help the community at the same time. Depending on the organization, you could possibly meet some young singles with an interest similar to yours. So get out and help out!


I'm always down for a great ladies' night! We play games, have a marathon of our favorite TV shows on DVD, hit a club or happy hour and just have a great time! This is also a great time to scope for guys while out and about.


What better person to spend time with than yourself?? I know that I love me some me! (Sounds conceited doesn't it? I'm really not...promise haha) I am famous for treating myself to a movie. Usually because it's something I really want to see and I don't like waiting on other people. I haven't mastered the going to a restaurant by myself yet, but I do go get some take-out (usually curbside) and sit home with a nice movie, or TV show marathon.

These are some things that worked for me, and may give you some things to think about the next time you want to go on a date.


  1. I often employ the same tactics to keep busy. I recently broke things off with my on-again-off-again boyfriend (this time it's permanent), so my weekend and evening routine has drastically changed. I am spending a lot more time with friends, attending and occasional happy hour. In fact, I am taking myself to the movies this afternoon to see The Proposal.

    I am also looking for a new organization to join since the athletic club I belong to is out of season. All this is not necessarily done to keep my mind off dating as much as it is to keep myself active.

  2. Yes, you bring up a good point....keeping active is good. That's why I started volunteering.

    Sorry to hear about your situation....glad to see that it's not keeping you down :-)

  3. What do you guys think of eHarmony.com....when I see those commericals come on....matched in May....married in February,lol, it makes me go hmmmmmm?? So I think if I were ever in a situation where I wanted to meet someone, I might try it...maybe...possibly...probably, lol. What do you think?

  4. Ah Melisa! You are jumping ahead a few posts...that is def an option and looking like a better idea every day. I'm not looking to meet and marry that soon, but we'll see. Stay tuned...

  5. i have a date tomorrow with myself. im going to see bruno and get me some Five Guys to go.