01 June 2009

Time's A-Wastin'.....

In today's world, we are bred for impatience. Everything is fast. We have 30-minute meals, Fios, express check-out.....I blame technology! We are part of a generation that expects to see instant results.....okay I'll admit that I'm guilty of this. Sometimes I just want what I want when I want it....sue me, I'm human. I am working on this patience thing though.

Now, as I work on my patience, I have one gripe for the fellas.....DON'T WASTE MY TIME (cue E. Badu)! It's very precious to me! Story time...this guy took the time to get my number. We talk pretty regular (good conversation, he's funny) and it's hard telling if he's interested in me as a homie, or more. No biggie. We made plans to go out, but they fell through at the last minute. Again, no biggie because I don't wait around, so I made other plans. Then we made plans again, and the same thing.

While I work on being patient with people, I'm also working on forgiveness and being nice (I already am nice, but I just want to stay that way). There was no time lost in this case because I made other arrangements ....those who know me, know I go with the flow, jump in or miss the boat!

Now I'm not mad at all about the plans, but I wanted to see and hang out with him. I let it be known, he said the same. Here's my question:

Should I implement the "3 Strikes, You're out" Rule, or should I just keep him as a phone buddy?


  1. This is about more than patience, he's just being inconsiderate. Not bothering to keep plans twice makes it known that hes not about business. He said he wanted to hang out with you but does nothing to keep his word on that. I say when he calls he calls, do what you been doing. I am all about the art of courting. If i have to chase you to court me... your out. No 3 strikes needed.

    Patience is a virtue but I just cant deal with the ignorance. Point blankk

  2. I always use the 3 strikes rule unless the reason for cancellation is a family emergency...but if not, see ya!!!

  3. I say if someone is too inconsiderate to at least call to let you know that plans have changed or that they no longer want to hang out, then it's their loss. His words say one thing but his actions speak very clearly. Too old to still be playing children games. Like 1st Corinthians 13:11 says: When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

    I say keep it moving. He doesn't respect you or your time. Take care.

  4. I think he needs to get to the meeting spot & then call you. You can confirm he's there b4 leaving your house all sassy & sweet. If he's cool he WAIT for you to get there...seriously tho'...if ur thinking about what to do then let then keep him as a phone buddy & go out with other great guys who show up & SHOW UP!

  5. hey its me. Im with Renee. If he cant keep his appointments then drop him. who has time to play games. we are for real to "old" for that krap.

    I also think that someone's actions are a telltale sign of where their heart is. think about it. the person you are really "crushing" on, u return all their calls and stick to the plans you make with them. however, the dude you feel whatever about, you call up when you're bored.

    Im toying with the 3 strikes thing for some folks in my own life. Im ready to get it poppin or leave the situation alone. I want to throw a question to the floor.

    If someone often takes a longer time then customary to respond to calls or isnt actively pursuing you, should they be put to the same 3 strikes rule as the guy who makes plans and breaks them?

    I would like to get some feedback so I can give this situation a rest. It gets on my last nerve.

  6. As an older woman, I know the value of a minute and everyone of my moments are precious.

    My philosophy is, 'if you every have to ask yourself "does he care?" then the answer is no. People that care want us to feel special, don't want us to hurt and won't change their plans with us because something 'better' came along.

    Drop this fool and wait, I said, wait until your soul, your spirit screams that you've met the right man.

    In the mean time, be good to yourself 'cause there are few people that will.

  7. please refer to the "he's just not that into you" blog...if he is, he will MAKE the time, by accepting anything less than the best ur giving him permission to continue his foolishness...i think that a woman should definitely be unavailable sometimes- he's not calling the shots-you are- its the man's "role." Evn if its just a homie thing- ask urself this question- do your other homeboys treat you like that? Prolly not...and if they did you'll prolly give them he** about it, lol. 3 strikes and ur out...thats baseball. I say fool me once, shame on you- fool me twice, shame on me...fool me three times- what kinda fool am i??? I made that last line up myself, lol, do you like it, lol...Goodnite all

  8. Great advice guys!! Thanks!

    And I do like that line Melisa!!