14 September 2009

Soul Mates...Do They Exist?

How many people think they've found their soulmate?

*raises hand*

With that said, I'll start with a definition. What is a soul mate? According to Webster's dictionary it means:

1 : a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament
2 : a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs

Kinda vague...With that definition, do you still think you've found your soul mate?

*raises hand*

Now to me, a soul mate is that person whom you have a connection with that's unexplainable. Like you're both sitting in the room and you know what the other is thinking without either of you saying a word. It's that cosmic connection that allows you to feel their pain/emotions even when you aren't around each other.

From many discussions with friends, I'm finding that this is a rare occurrence. So does that mean that we have the definition screwed up of what a soul mate really is? Say that you're lucky to find that person, does it always mean that you are meant to be together? What if someone has this same connection with more than one person? Are we allowed to have more than one soul mate?

I believe that we can. I think that sometimes soul mates can even be of the same sex. I'm not saying that a person is gay if they find that same-sex soul mate, they might be best friends.

I did an image search on Google for soul mates, and almost every picture depicted a man and woman (sometimes male/female animals) in an intimate position. We are conditioned to think that soul mates have to be this great love.

Now, I know that you're wondering about my soul mate. I think I did find him, he knows who he is. We're best friends and we truly have that connection where we know thoughts without speaking, and even across country, and even seas, we knew what the other was feeling. Yeah, I know you don't believe me, but it's true! We have a lot of the same beliefs and thoughts.

Now this isn't saying that everything is happy-go-lucky either. We don't agree 100% on everything. I can't feel if he gets a paper cut and vice versa lol. We've lost touch a few times over the years, but we keep coming back in contact with each other.

Are we supposed to be together? I'm no fortune teller, nor am I going to pay Miss Cleo (yes she's back lol) or any other psychic to find out. I guess I'm going to play this life thing out and see what God has in store for me.

Talk to me: Do you think that you've found your soul mate? How do you know? Do you think that you're supposed to marry your soul mate? Can people have more than one soul mate?

09 September 2009

It's a Thin Line.....

....between researching and stalking! I know what you thought I was going to say, and that is true too, but it doesn't fit with my thoughts today.

Recently, I've had a discussion with some friends about stalking people on the Internet. Let me backtrack..... this came about when I told about how I look up a guy on Facebook, and make sure he's not a registered sex offender if I don't know him (hhmmm maybe I should check the ones I do know too lol). I was told that this is stalking.

I call it research. Especially on Facebook....if someone leaves their page open, aren't they just asking for people to look at their info? In the last post, you'll note that my research saved a situation from possibly getting worse. What if I hadn't seen that the guy was engaged? What if I got involved emotionally and found out this info later? What if she came after me and I didn't even know about her?

To me stalking someone on the Internet means that I was following their every move....like who is he talking to? What does abc mean? What does xyz mean?

In this case, my research proved to work out for the best for me, but what do you think? What is your definition of Internet stalking? Is looking someone up on Facebook considered stalking?

I'm Baaaack!!!

Hey people! I've been on a bit of a break. I really couldn't bring myself to write anymore, but I'm back now!

I know I left you all with what I have heard is my "angry woman post" and I'm past that now. Here's the thing with me. This blog is where I vent and that is how I was feeling at the time. By no means am I that angry often. I'm generally a happy person. It was just too much at one time.

Since then have I endured more BS? Yes. Let me share the latest....I was going out with a guy. Good times. Only to find out later that he's engaged!! Yes, you read right! And guess how I found out...

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Yes ladies and gentlemen, I did a little research and saw that he was engaged. I confronted him with my findings and he got mad at me!! He told me how I should know facts before I come at him, and that I need to check dates because that was old. He had been on his page quite often to update statuses and comment when people responded, but didn't remember to remove a fiancee from his page? Come on now...I'm not stupid.

Luckily, I was past being angry woman and was able to laugh at it. I calmly said (well typed because it all went down via email....oh the joys of technology ) my piece and never heard anything back. Now, I wasn't surprised by this because I hadn't expected to hear from him again. That further let me know that what I saw was true.

No biggie though, he wasn't around long enough for me to be upset or care that much. In the end, this was just a funny story to share with others.

With that being said. I'm back to blogging, but on hiatus from boys...emphasis on boys. I'm focusing on myself and what I need to do and diving into my extra curricular activities head first. Soon I'll be too busy to even care.

Are you glad that I'm back? Have you ever experienced anything like this?