Dating in the Workplace

Hey folks! Hope you all enjoyed your long weekend!! I'm just starting a new gig and it led me to think about dating in the workplace.

I've always been VERY against dating anyone I work with. I thought about what if it doesn't work out? Then I'd be stuck looking at that person. I also thought about the attention it could possibly bring. People might be nosy and in my business.....so I've never been a fan of dating in the workplace.

With this new job, I'm in a building with about 6,000 employees!!! What if I find a FINE brotha that wants to take me to lunch? Should I turn him down because he works in my building?

Should I relax my rule if they don't work in my office, or even my floor?? Let me know what you think....

Sparks....

I'm an avid reader of the Washington Post Magazine's Date Lab. For those of you that don't know, each week, the magazine sets up two people based on common interests from a survey they complete beforehand. The daters meet in a restaurant and get a free meal on the magazine's tab. They then write about the date and take a few pics. Then they provide an update ofter the date.

I've been reading for awhile and no one ever ends up together.....no one. Is the Post that bad at matching couples? I don't think so. I think the problem is that the daters have unreal expectations for the first date.

Most complain about the other's looks and say "He/She does not look like the type of guys/girls I usually date....." and it goes downhill from there because of the initial impression. Blind dates are hard...trust me I know. I go into them with a positive attitude. I say "Maybe I can meet a new friend if things don't work out."

Most sparks are not usually instant in couples. Ask some couples and see what they say. Sometimes it takes time to grow. Now if the guy/girl is a complete jerk, then okay, cut them loose, but I'm all about giving people chances first before I write them off.

If the person is nice, then it could develop into something special. Or maybe it could turn out to be a great movie buddy, or a restaurant buddy you want to try new places with. Hanging out does not always mean that you are a couple and have to put a title on things.....especially if you just enjoy each other's company. You never know, he/she could be your soul mate.

Keep that in mind next time you're on a blind date :-)

Settling vs. Acceptance

I just wanted to elaborate on the last post. Yes, I say that we should not be Modern-Day Settlers, but I do think that we should accept people for who they are.

When I was younger (and my friend Michele can attest to it), I made a list of 100+ qualities I wanted in a guy. I had to be very young to have that much time on my hands LOL. Nowadays, my list is WAY shorter (and less materialistic) because a lot of what I had before didn't matter. Not to say that I wouldn't like those things, but they are not a necessity.

We're human and everyone has flaws/faults or whatever, but you have to decide things that are deal breakers. For instance, if a girl/guy wears a brand of clothing you don't like. Dating him/her does not make you a Settler. That is accepting who you are. If you have to lower your self-worth to be with this guy/girl, then it makes you a Settler.

A friend of mine said "Settling is being with someone cause you don't want to be alone or because you have been with them for so long that you go through the motion and are not happy." That is a perfect example of what I mean. Thanks T!!

I just wanted to clear things up. I'm willing to accept people, as I hope they do to me, but I won't be settling for less than what I'm worth!

Modern-Day Settlers

How often have you been in the grocery store and had a taste for some fruit? Did you search and search and search until you found the perfect piece in the bunch? Of course you did!! You're not going to settle for the ratty piece of fruit they put on top, hoping someone won't inspect it and buy it. It doesn't matter that it's your favorite fruit, you won't buy into that!

How come we don't take this same approach when it comes to relationships? (Yes, I am guilty of it too) We settle for the guys or girls that are on "top of the pile" or the first ones we meet. Yea, we love them, but we put up with things that we wouldn't take from anyone else. Why do we do this? Is love all we really need, even though they aren't really worthy of our love?

I'm at the point where I don't want to be a Modern-Day Settler. I won't settle for less. If that means, being alone then so be it. I know my worth and have to wait for the right one. I suggest that YOU don't become a Modern-Day Settler either!!

Just for fun.....I received an email once that goes like this:

Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the
tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are
afraid of falling and getting hurt Instead, they sometimes take the
apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. The apples at
the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're
amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the
one who is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.

Now Men.... Men are like a fine wine. They begin as grapes, and it's
up to women to stomp them into shape until they turn into
something acceptable to have dinner with.

Now, now, I'm not saying that I agree with this and that it's not interchangeable......it was something I got and decided to share. Let me know what you think!

He's Just Not That Into A Lady That Thinks Like A Man.....

I've been hearing a LOT about Steve Harvey's book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. No, I haven't read it and I don't plan on it. I'm tired of hearing about my "cookie" and what Steve said to do. I think it's fine for those that read it and I'm sure it would give me some good tips, but I'm a skeptic.

Let's take it back a bit.....in 2005, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo wrote a book called He's Just Not That Into You. I didn't read that one either....saw the movie though. I do know people that read it and they said that it was full of common sense. For example: If he doesn't return your call.....he's just not that into you. Duh! I don't need to pay $13 to know that! Those people that I know that read it, most are still single. This is a guide to give women things to look for when a guy is not interested.....okay.

Now back to Steve. I hear his book does give good tips, and I don't knock that, but I'm not going to live by this book. It may give me things to look for, but I think I can manage. I live my life by one Bible (the Holy one) and that's enough!

There is no set recipe on how to hook a man. Some things may work and some may not, so I don't need Steve, Greg, or Liz to tell me that I'm doing something wrong. I can do bad all by myself! LOL

Ladies - I may be wrong, but what do you think?? Should I read these books? Are there others? Has any of these books helped you hook a man?

Guys - What do you think about these types of books?

Welcome!!

Hello all! Welcome to my new venture! I'm new to this, so bear with me as I learn about this blogging stuff. Let me start with the formalities......

I go by the name Angel. As the title of this blog states, I am single, sassy, and sweet. I'm a 20-something and I'm caught up in this crazy dating world. I wanted a place to share tips, vent my frustrations, and share my experiences with everyone. So here it is!! Feel free to comment, offer advice, and suggest topics at any time! My blog is your blog!

What does it mean to be single, sassy and sweet?? The single and sweet part are pretty self-explanatory. Sassy isn't necessarily a bad thing, but I believe it means to have a no-nonsense approach to life. You don't settle for less and let it be known....in a classy way of course.

That's pretty much it in a nutshell. There will be another post soon. Thanks for stopping by!! Come often and bring friends!! Until next time......